The weird thing happy, confident people do

Sep 26

I was telling a podcaster about my decision to take the phrase, "I help high achievers" off my website. Why? Because my clients rarely see themselves that way when they find me.

For the record - My clients are all high-performing, GENIUSES with the most INSANE POTENTIAL who are also so freaked out about the idea of getting something "wrong" that they find themselves totally frozen, unable to do anything but sit on the couch and binge horrible Hallmark movies on Hulu, stay in jobs that bore them to death, and compare themselves to all the successful people they see in their Instagram doomscrolling.

Inhale.

They’re high-achievers who don’t think they’re high-achievers.

I blame schools (most of my clients were amazing students).
In school we're trained to learn the "right answer" BEFORE we take the test.

But life isn't school.

So you have to:

Make decisions based on your best guess
Get feedback that feels like someone took a red marker to your life
Accidentally get a few things right along the way
Guess again, with slightly more information
So you keep getting better at guessing and create more success

Happy, confident people embrace so-called “failure.”

In life, failure isn't a grade. FAILURE IS THE WAY.

You're an executive at your organization? You probably started off in a cubicle doing every task that was asked of you because you wanted to "prove yourself."
You're in a dream relationship? You probably went on a hundred bad dates and had a guy once take his socks off and do a puppet show for you in a bar (That's me).
You're making lots of money? You probably went through years of making NO money, putting your student loan payments on hold because you couldn't afford them, and feeling totally lost and confused about what to do next (Also me).

Anyone who's created anything worthwhile has persisted through those awkward stages.
(Just google "famous failures" and you'll see.)

But there's a funny difference between confident people who sustain and grow their success...

... and people who try something cool... then fizzle out, self-sabotage, and get caught in cycles of start-and-stop.

Here it is:

Those who sustain and grow their success own and celebrate their first drafts.
They see themselves as constantly improving, growing, and moving toward greatness.

Those who fizzle out are ashamed of, and try to hide their past failures.
They see their goals as a way of "fixing" themselves so they can be "good enough."

Pssst...If it's the latter, you're totally normal.

Pursuing a goal is going to make you feel self-doubt. And it’s no biggie.

Because pursuing a goal shows you all the ways you outsource feeling safe and happy and lovable and worthy of money and success - Basically all the good things in life.

I've done both.

And let me tell you, it feels so much better to be proud of everything you've done.

But it didn't come naturally to me. I had to choose confidence.

I had to choose not to engage in regret and shame (still do).

What would it be like if you OWNED:

All the previous versions of yourself
Ideas you no longer believe in
Results that were lackluster or straight up awful but taught you sooo much

Imagine if you let it fuel you.

Imagine looking at all of that and thinking....

"I'm so proud of all of it. And now I get to make it even better."

Imagine enjoying validation and praise, but never needing it because your self-confidence is solid as a rock.

Imagine never needing an "accountability partner" because you always follow through with what you say you're going to do.

Imagine never quitting on yourself again.

No matter how many times you've tried before, I will guide you. Click here and let's talk about what that looks like.

Are you ready to do the impossible?

Hi! I’m Erica

Wife to Brendan. Mom to twins + one. Dog mom. Slow runner. Coffee drinker. GIF enthusiast.

I’m a licensed mental health therapist and life coach and career coach. I help you accomplish in 6 months that thing you’ve been thinking about doing for years.